how this whole oppression thing actually works
the default for white people is racist
the default for cis people is transmisogynist
the default for men is sexist
the default for able people is ableist
I’m sure you are seeing the pattern by now
these defaults are what happen when you grow up in a society with
institutional oppression. the are literally unavoidable.
we must all unlearn these things
(the difference between people who experience an oppression vs. those who
do not experience it is the target: self or other.)
do not now or ever again ask for proof that a white person is racist.
you want me to think they aren’t racist?
show me the proof that they are anti-racist
there’s chronic under-reacting in our society
all these people act like extremely violent and dehumanizing statements and actions are just everyday things or jokes - mundane issues
so when some people have what actually constitutes as a normal reaction to something incredibly invalidating and painful
all these people see it as overreacting
but we aren’t overreacting, we aren’t over-sensitive
you are insensitive, you are under-reacting because you lack empathy or lack feeling or feel accustomed to how things are
and that’s part of how toxic it is
people want us to believe that’s just the way it is, that it will never change
they want us to think we’re crazy for feeling so hurt or upset
but it’s not that we’re crazy or we’re overreacting
it’s that you aren’t reacting enough
The undocumented migrants who died in Lampedusa have been granted Italian citizenship. A noble gesture, one would say. However, the survivors, face this (from the link):
But for the survivors, crammed in a refugee centre hosting four times more people than its normal capacity, the situation remains dire. Under a law passed by the previous centre-right government, “clandestine immigrants” are considered illegal and have to pay fines of up to €5,000.
That is so DISGUSTING of the Italian govt. I CANT
I don’t understand the logic that whoever is calmest in an argument is winning and that somehow anger invalidates your words. I mean I can argue that your great aunt’s name is Jihinksenbob for an hour straight and be perfectly fine. It’s very easy to be calm when the topic doesn’t affect you personally or you just don’t know what the hell you’re talking about.
As I’m sure you remember, my federal loans fucked me out of most of my tax refund and obliterated my savings that I had slowly been trickling in with my tiny paychecks. This alone, while shitty, didn’t have an immediate impact.
It was when work started cutting my hours that I started having a lot of trouble paying any of my regular bills. Without the buffer of that refund, I’m right on the wire each time, just barely making it with each paycheck. And now I have to pay July’s rent and 50 dollars of June’s rent and I’ll be almost broke when my loans payment goes through.
I’m just not making enough money at the moment to keep up, even with the odd jobs I’m struggling to pick up while my hours are so low at work. The job search for a second job (or a better replacement preferably because I am sick of the bullshit at my current job) hasn’t gone well so far so nothing has really improved and I can’t keep up.
I need around 300 dollars to meet rent and I have zero guarantee that my paycheck this friday will even come close (I can’t recall if this will be the paycheck for the week those fucks at work gave me only 8 hours).
So like I said, I really hate doing this but I have to at this point.
Please signal boost or donate if you have anything to spare. My donation button is on my profile itself and I can leave a link (that hopefully won’t break like last time) right here.
In the meantime I’ll keep looking and hopefully can get a job worth a damn instead of this bullshit.
- japan ≠ korea ≠ china
- pakistan is not in the middle east
- most muslims aren’t arabs
- geishas are not prostitutes
- mexico is a very small part of latin america
- there are 54 countries in africa
- china has 56 different ethnic groups and none of them eat chop suey
Nancy White as quoted in From Servitude to Service Work: Historical Continuities in the Racial Division of Paid Reproductive Labor (via ninjabikeslut)
This is why Black women cannot desire to achieve “equality” with White women (or Black men, actually) because their position is still oppressed. This is why “damsel in distress” narratives (usually reserved for White women) for Black women such as in Django Unchained are not inherently progressive feminist ones. Shifting places in a hierarchy meant to oppress is not revolution. Challenging and crushing the hierarchy is. However, this positionality has to be discussed in terms of experiences and differences. It cannot be ignored solely to make the ones with the more “approved” notches (at a particular intersection) feel more “comfortable” with their privilege.
OOP. But don’t you tell a white feminist this. She’ll cry them white tears and then run to the first white man who’ll stick up for them.
They did it in the past, and they still do it now.
I recently reapplied for a forbearance on my student loans, citing financial reasons and figured everything would be fine. I live on my monthly disability check, there is no way I can afford to make student loan payments. Today I got a letter from the student loan company (ACS) stating that they will not process my forbearance request until I make a payment, ($500.66), that is over half of my disability check, and actually impossible since my father already gets $300+ (for rent) from me each month and I send financial support to my daughters. I am actively calling to speak with a representative about my options but I am worried that I will have to pay in full very soon.
I have a donate button on my page. If you are able, anything will help, even a dollar. Anyone who donates over $10 will get a custom drawn thank you card (my wonderful boyfriend has offered to help with postage) as long as I have their mailing address.
Here are some links for those who are not familiar with my artwork. If you want anything specific on your thank you card just put it in the note part of the donation form (or send me a message)
- one of my newest drawings
- a bunch of turtles, i draw a lot of turtles
- this ones really neat
- probably some of my most popular ones
I am also pretty much willing to try and draw anything if I can figure out a way to do it in my style.
Update: I am at about 20% of what I need to make the payment, thank you to everyone who has donated and reblogged this.
I got some really nice big, blank greeting cards that I plan on covering with pretty drawings before sending them to all the generous people who donated :)
Updating again: I am now at about 30% and I have started working on the cards so I thought I would share a little preview of what they are going to look like:
So far I have 10 of these I need to finish for the lovely people who have donated. All will be different, though I am sure a few will have dreamcatchers all the dreamcatchers will be unique. Some people will get a turtle, maybe a fox, or more intricate floral patterns. As you can see I am drawing on both outsides of the card, I will sign and date on the back side of the card and leave the inside blank (I am going to write little personal thank you’s on a scrap of paper and put it inside) that way if the person who gets the card wants to actually give it as a card to someone they can, or it can be opened up, laid flat, and framed.
guys if you help bear, you basically are getting a free handmade card/print. HOW MUCH ARE CARDS IN STORES THESE DAYS, I ASK YOU NOW? woops, sorry, lawyer voice. go get ‘em, earthlings.
When a person comes out to you:
What you SHOULD say: I appreciate that you care about me enough to divulge this information about yourself.
What you SHOULDN’T say: “I knew that already” “I don’t care” “Dude it’s no big deal” “So I can come out as straight now?” “Stop trying to cause a scene” “Stop trying to sound special” “Why can’t I come out as straight” “I’m gonna come out as liking sports!!111!!” “So what are you now?!” “Ugh you’re so confusing”
Coming out is not a singular event, it is something you have to do over and over again, often after a cost benefit analysis over whether or not it’s even worth it to do so in the first place. If a person discloses this kind of information with you, DO NOT, I repeat, DO.NOT. dismiss them in the ways I listed above, it reeks of wrongness and also how dare you fix your mouth to say as such. A person coming out is their way of saying that regardless of the fact that society would probably like to see them dead, they are proud of who they are and they’re trying to carve out an existence where they don’t have to hide who they are. If you are a *real* ally to LGBTQ folks, don’t dismiss their words and struggles, that’s all.
It’s outside of your zone, without exceptions.
Topics that relate to this include
- whether a given trans girl has ever experienced male privilege
- how many trans girls experience male privilege, if any
- where in transition a trans girl might experience male privilege, if shedoes
- the nature of a trans girl’s gender during, before or after transition
- what transition even is
- the state of a trans girl who is not transitioning (regardless of what transition means)
- the risks of transition
- the benefits of transition
- the physicality of a trans girl in any stage of transition or sans transition
- the presence of a trans girl in feminism
- the presence of a trans girl in women only spaces
- sex vs. gender as it regards trans girls
- a trans girl’s relation to her own gender, regardless of whether she fully identifies as a girl or if there are other facets to her gender (edging on the wider category of gender existent dmab individuals who face transmisogyny, note: this does not cover racist appropriative identities. If a white trans girl tries to id as two spirit as an example, she deserves to get crushed for that racism)
- the gender of any gender existent dmab individual who faces transmisogny regardless of whether they are a trans girl (similar to the above, racist appropriation deserves to get crushed)
- the medicalization and pathologization of trans girls’ genders
- the sexualized desexualization of trans girls
- the sexualized desexualization of trans girls in queer women spaces
- the sexualized desexualization of trans girls by chasers and fetishizers and especially men
And really, dfab trans folks? You don’t get an opinion on this stuff either.
Expressing an opinion on these trans girl specific topics (as opposed to calling out transmisogynistic nonsense when someone else expresses a shitty opinion on them) is transmisogynistic because you’re acting like you have a say in a trans girl’s gender existence.
And you do not.
You do not deserve a say in our womanhood or our gender existence. You don’t get to center your voice on us.
You get to shut the fuck up.