Please stop saying “physical attraction” as if it’s a synonym for sexual attraction. Asexual people who experience sensual attraction are experiencing an attraction that is literally physical. Asexuality is about not experiencing sexual attraction, not about not experiencing physical attraction, although sexual attraction might be in the category of physical attractions.
Tagged: asexuals, if i separate my attraction into enough subcategories maybe i can pretend it doesn’t exist, I define the meaning of words now! Do not defy me!, words mean things, split those hairs finer! finer!, i will do all the mental gymnastics necessary to stay a part of this subculture.
Reblogging for watchful-entity’s amazingly accurate tags
this is where language goes to die and is reborn as a beautiful asexual phoenix
That first thing makes “physical attraction” sound like some kind of magnetic thing. (Fucking asexuals, how do they work?)
Physical attraction has been a euphemism for sexual attraction for forever, though.
Thinking that we need euphemisms for sex, sexual relationships and sexual attraction sounds a tad slut-shaming to me. And clearly, desiring precision (and less slut-shaming) in language is the most absolutely outrageous & ridiculous request.
- the OP
We have euphemisms for everything, though. It doesn’t imply shame. Plus there are some situations where using the word sexual is ill advised.
Wrong. Euphemisms for having fun indeed have nothing to do with shame. But euphemisms for sex and all things sexual are indeed caused by shame and centuries of “can’t mention such things in polite company”. That same thing goes for any and all euphemisms we have for bodily functions, be they eating, defecating, dying or procreating. Many, if not most, of the euphemisms we have for those things arose during times of incredibly strong Cristian influence on western societies. If you look at pre-Christian stuff from Northern Europe it’s very frivolous and open about all of the above things, if you look at post-Christian Northern Europe you’ll find all written sources full of euphemisms, but all of the oral narratives such as ballads full of unashamed mentions of all things related to life and the body. Not until Christian morals was efficiently stomped into the minds of the working classes to the degree of nearly completely eradicating the balladic tradition (speaking specifically of Denmark here - thank you Grundtvig - not!) did every mention of sex and the body’s other function come in the shape of euphemisms.
So yes, it implies shame. A whole truckload of it.
Sexual is the clinical and correct term for a lot of things. If that is the wrong word to use in some situations it is because people in those situations believe that all things sexual are shameful and taboo. And *that* would be thanks to the Christian Western world’s view that all things sexual are shameful and should never be mentioned in “polite company”.